Why I get frustrated easily
I get frustrated easily while working especially when I was dealing with the people that I do not like. Initially, I will be patient on whatever that he/she has been doing for me. Unfortunately, lately, I get frustrated easily with the things that he/she did as he/she kept repeating the same things that really annoying.
“You should not get angry so easily. You will encounter the same things also in the new company if you cannot control your emotion.”
Here, I want to clarify that I did not simply throw my temper to everyone. But, I will in a bad mood lol. 
I know that I shouldn’t get angry so easily while dealing with people.
I know that I should control my emotion while working.
I know that I should be more professional when come to work.
I know that I should take it easy.
Take it easy. Ok. I will remind myself on that.
hehe. there are times when we keep reminding ourselves, we have to do this and that but we just never happen to do it.
keeyit || Yeah lor.. say is easy than action
Kee Yit, it’s a good step that you know who you are and another good step to know what you supposed to do! Nothing impossible to change ourselves and be better… if you change your reaction, who knows that person you don’t like will also change! May be you can find another way or style while you told them what to do? For example, I will be bad tempered when my son didn’t do his homework straightly when I told him, but I found out that if I pad his shoulder softly and take the homework together with him he will be more cooperative, then I will do that again later…
keeyit || hmm yeah.. how about my case ? working environment is really different..
Keeyit,
I know this might sound funny but suppress anger is very unhealthy because when anger is built up, it is bad !
A few tips on anger management :
1. Find out what are the stressors ?
2. Is the stressor the person him/herself
or what/how that person present to you ?
3. Find out alternative coping mechanism where you can release your anger.
4. One of the things we teach out patient is talking out.
Confront the person with the issues (the first time when this issue arises and not that issue sits there for weeks and anger piled up).
5. Sometimes we can met half way to resolve differences.
I find it very difficult in Asian society to talk out because we prefer non-confrontational style and suppress anger in us and in the end of the day we suffer inwardly. And this apply to work relationship, husband and wife relationship and even siblings.
I hope you can find better coping mechanism than suppress your anger.
These are not healthy mechanism :
“I know that I shouldn’t get angry so easily while dealing with people.
I know that I should control my emotion while working.
I know that I should be more professional when come to work.
I know that I should take it easy.”
You will bring your problem to the next company if you do not solve your anger problem.
My 2cents after working a lot with mental illness people.
Jamy
keeyit || Yeah Jamy, it is hard to talk out with the person that you dun like. Thanks for your advices.
Perhaps you might want to read about the Golden Rule and Platinum Rule. It actually helps you in understanding people. When you are able to understand other and yourself, then you’ll be able to control your frustration
keeyit || I think I should.. have chinese version ? People relationship really hard to maintain..
i still think tht confronting person to resolve the issue is abit restrictive in Asian working culture. Normally i will just forget it, or if worse to come, just express everyting in my blog.
keeyit || Yeah I din do that too.. I just kept it myself only.. sigh..
Everyone is emotional at times. Unless you call yourself cold blooded. But, letting out temper on others is certainly not a nice thing to do.
keeyit || Yeah I know.. I never let out temper to others before. I will just feel unhappy inside my heart. That’s all.. I think this will make me unhappy..
Just stay cool…
keeyit || Yeah.. cool
Haha. I got irritated when I work with inefficient ppl, and I really hate that. My very recent tactic was… leave it and let that fella die with whatever not settled. Not my problem. Keke.
keeyit || Hahaha.. sometimes if in a group, we must help each other one.. hehhee..
Good practice to improve EQ. Blogging could ease your anger!
keeyit || Yeah Blogging is the best to talk to people..
please don’t angry me lah
keeyit || No.. you so cute.. I din angry on you la.. hahaaa
patience is virtue. maybe you could try this trick, whenever you feel angry with someone, choose to ‘delay’ it. chances are, you won’t feel that angry anymore later on
but yeah, easier said than done is another story.
keeyit || Delay is what I did normally..
It’s ok to loose temper lah, we are all human mah, got feeling one. You’re better than me, I got frustrated when I am hungry or when the weather is scorching hot. Hehehe
keeyit || hahahaaaa.. Actually I will only get frustrated on my working stuffs.. others are ok for me..
No advice from me.
But i sure hope that you are able to find a solution to all your frustration.
keeyit || Hahaa.. thanks
Anger……. I remember it. I used to be an angry person. I just forced myself to not get angry. Can’t really explain, but somehow, it works for me. At least. Call it a personal anger management, where you get to be the manager to deal with the customer call anger. or something like that…
keeyit || Ooo.. I should learn on anger management.. hehe
wei, why same topic with the other blog one… cheat cheat~~
keeyit || Hahahhaa..
Anger is a normal human emotion. A strong uncomfortable emotional response to a provocation or treat that is either real or perceived.
It can be constructive if handled appropriately and expressed assertively. It is a learned mean of neutralizing the anxiety that arises in response to a threat.
When suppressed or expressed in appropriately it can caused physical or emotional problems or interfere with relationship.
If anger is inappropriately expressed, it can result in lost of control, guilt, and embarrassment. Indirect expression of anger can be expressed as passive/aggressive behavior (do nothing, say nothing, for eg. if you ask a child to do something, he is angry so he does nothing, or an adult, he might do something but slowly).
In Asian society education system, science and engineering is emphasized because we need to build a lot of buildings and “longkang” but in the West, they put a lot of effort in human development studies.
If you have time, go to enroll in a basic psychology class and learn basic human behavior, that will help you a lot in your future career.
I used to only understand computer because I was a real geek (still is). I hate human because I think they are too complicated. I used to stay in my cold room 24hours a day. I was an IBM computer engineer. But, now I am involve in human studies more than computers. I love it. And retrospect, I can understand why my sister who understand human psychology goes further in corporate career than me. She is a director for an international company being an Asian female at the tender age of 32. And I have to say it has a lot to do with her taking psy class when she was in school. She knew how human think and behave but I knew only how computer think and behave then :).
keeyit || Thanks for your advices.. Psychology class.. or books.. Hmmm… great! I know where I can improve and understand myself more..
relationship wif another human is possibly one of the toughest things to master in this world.
i blif, we cant control wat other ppl think or do or say…so we jz have to change our own mindset. i know it’s easy to say. i jz believe nth is impossible.
there are frustrating moments of coz. but if u try to look at a different perspective…things are most probably not as bad as u think it is
keeyit || Maybe I should see things in different perspectives
Humans will always be humans. Just relax and take a deep breath when you feel you will get frustrated with something. Or clench your fists then release them.
keeyit || Take a deep breath..
Kee Yit, at least u still can avoid by talking to the person ler…at home, when we get so mad with our kid and hb, also cannot avoid them
keeyit || Yahor.. some more got mother in laws or father in laws.. ai complicated…
Same here…..have to remind myself.
keeyit || Same same..
That’s ok, it shows you are human hehe!:)
keeyit || Hahhaha..